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Update: My Edward Chatzi Story Made a Difference

May 6th, 2008 · 10 Comments

I received an email a little while ago from a lady (I will keep her anonymous) regarding Edward Chatzi, the guy that was a scammer.  I was soooo glad she wrote me.  I felt a great kinship to her, knowing that the same man tried to take her as he tried to take me.  Below is the email she sent to me, but I have omitted some things for her privacy.

Hi my name is XXX. I found your blog by accident but wanted to email you and let you know you are NOT stupid. I was also dupped by the supposide Edward.. I met him on Chemistry and we started communicating in February. At first it was slow and then began to pick up when I switched over to Yahoo messenger. We chatted everyday, but actually only spoke on the phone 2-3 times.

I, like you, researched to make sure his story was legit regarding being in Scottland, ect. He sent me photos of himself and his supposide daughter Jessie. From the first conversation we had over the phone I began to get a bit leary but he always had a great response.. He lost his temper with me on the first call as I was not willing to devulge too many details about my life over the phone. He told me he would be coming back to the Ft. Worth area in 3 weeks (around Easter) and wanted us to spend time together and get to know each other better. For me to meet his daughter and that he was in this for the long haul as he wanted to quite traveling so much and have a stable home for Jessie. Told me he had cut off communication with the other woman he had been talking to in order to focus on us ( I NEVER believed that one!). Reading your blog I figure we were talking to him at the same time..

We spoke on the phone for about 1 hour the first time and then went back to IM’ but I could never get out of my mind that for a guy that said he was part greek and english with an english accent, that he actually sounded more South African to me. I never told him that, but it was my gut feeling. I continued to chat with him as I could always verify his “stories”. Sometime in March he called me from what looked like a (local) number and I was thrilled when I answered and heard his voice. I thought he had flown home.. instead he gave me the song and dance that he was on travel down in Africa and that he had emailed me that.

When I said no you did not, oh must be the other woman.. he got upset.. To make a long story short I was on my way to work so he did not really want to talk while I was driving said he wanted to make sure I was safe. (I believe he was calling to give me the request for money scam) Instead I questioned him on when he went to Africa and what the hell.. he told me the date and I remembered that was suppose to have been the same day as Jessie’s 10th birthday.. I confronted him and he got upset and hung up.

I did not hear from him for several days and was so confused. During that time I had a friend pray with me about discernment on this and that night saw a show on dateline NBC regarding dating scams. It specifically talked about the Republic of Benin ect.. and how to ping the IM address to see where their computer is located. I remembered that Ed had sent me a couple of real emails and so I did this. Go figure the computer was in Cabridge, UK not Aberdeen Scottland..

The very next day he IM’d be to tell me he missed me.. yadayadayada.. I was on to him so I played along and said I missed him also and asked exactly where he was. He replied the Republic of benin. I then proceeded to send him a “lovely” message about him being a total scam artist and liar, to quit wasting my time and the only way to prove to me he was real was to go to webcam with me right then and let me see him face to face. He of course refused and said that he had nothing to prove.. I shot back a few things to show him I knew he was not really the person in the photos and he bascially kept trying to see if it was really over. I have not heard from him since then, and reported him to Chemistry and match as he was also listed on there. They investigated and Match removed his profile. I do not know what Chemistry did as they said they could not locate his account, but I still sent them what I had to make sure they followed up and got him off.

I never sent him any money but do believe the day he called me it was to ask for financial assistance. I did lose alot of time and was emotionally upset over it. Truth is YOU are a woman of strength and do not nock yourself. I was sick to think that the man in the photo and the daughter are just victims being used. I sent him photos of myself and my neice and nephew and have to tell you I am sick over the fact that they now have that to use to dupe someother innocent person. Well all I can say is what goes around comes around and he will one day have to account for what he is doing and has done.

I just wanted you to know that there are many of us I am sure. I did not find the sites you spoke about showing him as a white african male. Did you ever see a live feed of him? I only had some photos and when I asked for more he said that was a girly thing and he did not have any more to send.”

Tags: Self-Pity and other personal thoughts

10 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Robin // May 6, 2008 at 1:59 pm

    Hon, there is a very special place in hell for this guy. I am sure this guy could have swayed me too, I tend to trust too easily.

    Robins last blog post..Women’s Clothing

  • 2 Mr. Fabulous // May 6, 2008 at 4:22 pm

    It can happen to anyone.

    I wish there was a way to take this guy out of commission.

    Mr. Fabulouss last blog post..You know you want it: LOL Hitler!

  • 3 whall // May 6, 2008 at 6:00 pm

    That’s great! I agree with Mr. Fab. Internet Justice, we could call it. I mean, with guys like me, Avi, Mr. Fab, Dave2 and for-the-love-of-god Jester, who would mess with us?

    *shudder*

    I just thought of what the lineup would look like with the five us standing together.

    Bats in our hands.

    Keyboards in front of us.

    Most of us clothed.

    *shudder*

    whalls last blog post..Stuff you don’t want to MISC, #45

  • 4 dmarks // May 6, 2008 at 6:23 pm

    Yes, you are not stupid to be taken in by this. Some people devote their lives toward making others miserable, while others spend the time helping others, having fun, making the world better, etc. It’s not your fault, or her fault, that you are not in the first group and have different priorities….

    dmarkss last blog post..Mushroom Hunting - Morels

  • 5 Absurdist // May 6, 2008 at 7:23 pm

    Robin:
    Girl, if I believed in hell, I would be completely with you. Let’s just hope Karma kicks him in the ass in this lifetime.

    Fab:
    I know you would. That’s why I love you so much. Just not in that way. :-)

    Wayne:
    Um, who would be somewhat clothed? Fab or Jester?

    Dmarks:
    Thanks. The hardest part is getting over feeling stupid and humiliated for being duped for things that made total sense after the fact.

  • 6 Turnbaby // May 6, 2008 at 7:45 pm

    It’s good to see that you have helped others. I hope this eases some of it–you should not be ashamed–you were trying to honestly connect. It can happen in the bricks and mortar world too sugar.

    And Fabby would be mostly naked;-)

    Turnbabys last blog post..IRL? WTF?

  • 7 Absurdist // May 6, 2008 at 8:34 pm

    Thanks Turnbaby. I really appreciate that. I am so scared to date now, even in the “real” world where I would know someone in person. It’s a trust issue that is very difficult to get over.

    The good news is, the woman lives in my area, so maybe I have an opportunity to make a friend.

  • 8 themuttprincess // May 7, 2008 at 8:52 am

    This can happen to anyone. AND it does. I would not beat yourself up over it, just learn and it is great that you met someone that also had some bad experience with him…

    themuttprincesss last blog post..Blech.

  • 9 Epiphany // May 7, 2008 at 11:20 am

    Abs, it would be so beyond awesome if you and this woman made a friendship out of this. I think it sucks that both of were hurt, obviously, but it’s awesome that you both saw through the scam before serious damage was done and that it’s possible something good may actually come of it.

    Epiphanys last blog post..Ouch

  • 10 jaszy // May 24, 2008 at 10:17 pm

    Hey - I just found your blog today. I have been im-ing Edward the past couple of weeks. I found him in Chemistry a few months ago and we emailed a couple of times and then he disappeared. He came up by accident when I started yahoo messenger recently. He contacted me and we started chatting. Since I was almost spammed a couple of times before in chemistry, my radar was up. I didn’t suspect anything until our last chat where he was just looking for information. So, I googled him and found you. Oh my god! Not again. The Nigerians were so much more obvious after I knew what to look for, but this guy had some American-type comments. Thank you for saving me from some terrible fate! I really appreciate it. He did say he was Edward Aristides(?)Chatzi. I can’t remember how to spell the middle name. He was supposed to be from Philadelphia, I think. He told me he was educated in England as the pretroengineer thing.

Come on man. You know you want to say something!